For far too many people, anal eroticism has a bad reputation. As children, we're taught that our bottoms are a 'dirty place'. After such an introduction, it's no wonder that back door pleasure gets such a bad rap. For the record, anal play is completely safe and completely pleasurable provided you use some common sense and a whole lot of lubricant.

The anus - super erogenous zone!

The anus is a powerful erogenous zone for both women and men. It's filled with sensitive nerve endings and is inextricably linked to sexual arousal. Most of us have stumbled upon the anus as an erogenous zone at one time in our lives but because of the social stigma attached to it, few of us actually stand up and celebrate it.

The new anus (public relations for the anus?)

Thankfully, that's changing. More and more people are experimenting with anal play as a healthy way of exploring sexual possibilities. Anal toys are dildos and vibrators made especially for anal insertion. They are incredibly popular. Doc Johnson (a leading sex toy manufacturer) claims that they've sold over 1 million small butt plugs. If that's not testament to the popularity of these toys, what is? Shed your inhibitions and explore the world of anal toys. You'll be glad you did.

Handy safety and tips to keep the fun rolling on

• Always use lubricant. The anus and rectum are not naturally lubricated like the vagina, making artificial lubrication a must. Whenever engaging in any sort of anal play, use a liberal amount of water-based lubricant. Some prefer using oil-based lubricants; this is generally safe for anal play, but a definite no-no for vaginal lubrication.
• Never insert anything sharp into your anus. The rectum is lined with thin, sensitive tissue. That, and it hurts like hell.
• Make sure your anal toys have a flared base. Toys can slip in, and unlike the vagina there is no natural barrier preventing objects from traveling further up the body. Avoid an embarrassing trip to the emergency ward.
• Respect your body. If you're experimenting with anal pleasure for the first time, go slow and be gentle.
• Zen and the art of anal play (relax). Relaxing your sphincter is the key to enjoyable anal play